• When someone touches parts or your body in a sexual way or not, without your permission, and this, whether you wear clothes or not
  • when somebody is forcing you to have a sexual relationship
  • when somebody is forcing you to watch sexual pictures or
  • when somebody is forcing you to assist to sexual acts or exhibitions
  • when somebody is forcing you to make sexual acts that you don’t want to do

No matter what anyone tells you, if something like that happens to you, it is not your fault!!! Nobody has the right to do things like that to you if you don’t agree.

Looking for a person to talk to – Contact someone you trust

Often victims have a sense of shame and fear, guilt, anger or shock.

Having someone there to support you as you deal with these emotions can be useful.

Persons who commit a sexual abuse

Acts of sexual abuse are committed by men, women, teenagers and other children. Sex offenders are found in all areas of society and come from a variety of backgrounds.

Contrary to the popular image, abusers usually seem quite normal to others. Most of the victims know their abuser.

They are likely to be a relative, family friend of person in a position of trust, rather than a stranger.

Help a friend.

If your friend or family member is undergoing serious and painful effects of sexual abuse, you should talk to him/her and explain that you are a good listener.

Your friend may have heard the abuse and thinks it is his/her fault and feels responsible.

As a friend, try to be there for him/her because although he/she may not show it, he/she needs you more than ever.

Tell your friend you are concerned by their safety and want to help. Be supportive and listen patiently. Acknowledge their feelings and be respectful of their decisions.

Connect your friend to resources that can give them information and help, as for example the KJT helpline

If I tell you, would you believe me?

It takes a lot of courage, but if you can talk about it, it may be helpful to speak with a counselor.

It may be very difficult for a victim of child sexual abuse to talk about what happened to them.

You might not be sure that someone will believe you. In fact, there are perhaps people that do not want to hear such cruel things. Such reactions are frequent in relation with sexual abuse. But do not hesitate to contact a helpline.

Remember that it was not your fault and that there is always help!

Call us on KJT or write us an email and you will get answers to your questions.

Can I trust KJT and do I have to tell everything?

The counselors from KJT will listen to you and help you. They do not ask you to talk about anything you do not want to.

It is you who control the conversation!

The counselor can help you to find the right addresses for getting help and protection.